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In September 2013 I lost one of my twin sons shortly after birth. As a dad and husband this has had a profound impact on me, something I am only just beginning to understand many years later.
I am not the man I once was, and will never be him again. In looking for support myself I have found that there are very few resources specifically for dads - this is why I am creating 17dads.
As dads, our first instinct is to protect and support our wives and partners, handling those difficult calls to family and friends, making arrangements, sorting things out while putting on a brave face.
Dads are often overlooked after a child has passed away, it's nobody's fault, it's just the way it is, but sometimes we need to reach out or have others reach out to us. Blokes don't like asking for help, we're proud, we're stubborn and we are expected to be strong, but going it alone and bottling it up can sometimes be a slippery slope - this is what 17dads is for.
Somewhere we can easily and discreetly communicate with our peers, share stories, share advice, forge friendships or maybe arrange to meet over a beer for a chat.
Awareness.. I would also like 17dads to create awareness of the impact of child deaths on dads and their families. A place friends and family who may find it hard to know what to do or know how to reach out to grieving dads can find information and advice. Many employers are unaware of the impact of child bereavement on dads who often go back to work too early, who are often shown very little compassion and support from their employers.
So, what happens now?.. Development has already begun but it will take time before we can launch the project. Myself and other dads are doing this in our spare time so it will be a few months before we're ready. In the meantime please show your support by subscribing to the newsletter or following the project on twitter. We will keep you informed of progress. Please get in touch if you have any suggestions for the project or would like to offer your support.
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